What it’s like to be a mom in 2020

On any given day of the year being a mom is hard.

I mean…you have to raise small humans, keep them safe, teach them about the world in age appropriate ways and start saving for their therapy…err, I mean college?

But in 2020…wheeeewwwie 2020 is just next level parenting. We didn’t train for this, could never have read about it in a fucking baby or child rearing book, there is literally NO ONE to ask advice from who went through this before. Because no one alive has gone through this before.

So it’s basically like we all have been handed newborns, given giant pads with witch hazel and told to go home and to not forget to use the squirt bottle when we pee. Yeah, it’s like we’re starting over.  HOW THE FUCK ARE WE SUPPOSED TO HANDLE THIS?

Then you add in the fact that our children have been yanked out of school, spouses are working from home (some of us), people are losing jobs, people are dying…oh yeah AND RIOTING and complaining about wearing masks and holy shit how did we get here?

I mean you can also add in the anxiety that 1 out of every 4 adults suffered with BEFORE this shit even went down (it’s probably more like 3 out of 4 at this point).

So how do we cope mamas? How do we get through this together? Why in the ever loving hell are some of us STILL judging other mothers through this?

I’ll tell you how. One day at a time. 

Your kids won’t crumble into a pile of nothingness if you tell them the truth about the world right now.

Your kids won’t be idiots for the rest of their lives because you decided not to argue every day for them to do their work with distance learning.

Their brains will not rot if you let them use the damn ipad everyday so you can lock yourself in the room and eat snacks you don’t want to share.

YOU are NOT failing. You have children who are stressed too- their lives turned upside down too. They miss their friends and normalcy too.

So love yourself and those kids enough to know that you’re doing your absolute best and they love the shit out of you even when you fail. You just need to be strong enough to keep going and try try again.

1 Comment

  1. Sarah Decker on September 28, 2020 at 12:00 pm

    I love this Nicole. You could not be more spot on!

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